Shortly after my friend Jess was diagnosed with cancer last spring, Lucy commented that she wanted to donate her hair to create a wig for a cancer patient. The simplicity of her stated desire-- such a huge gesture of giving at not even eight years old-- blew me away. This girl has a heart of gold.
Predictably, there were moments over the subsequent months when she grew impatient with the curls (oh, the curls!) and tangles. But she was determined to reach that final goal of 10 inches of hair to donate.
Over those months as Lucy's hair grew, Jess endured months of strong chemo, a life-saving bone marrow transplant, and then even more chemo. Her gorgeous hair was snipped shorter and shorter until it finally began coming out in earnest in mid-July. Putting on a brave face, Jess asked one of the nurses in the bone marrow unit to preemptively shave her head.
The same day that Jess lost her locks, the wise Glennon from Momastery posted this quote on her page:
"For a seed to become its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. Its shell cracks, its insides come out, and everything changes. To someone who doesn't understand growth, it would look like complete destruction."- Cynthia Occelli
Yes, this is the thing.The wise ones know that the pain, the breaking, the coming undone, the cracks, the darkness - that's all just the beginning, not the end.
Transformation can, at first, be dark and scary and painful and lonely. Keep the faith.Trust the system.You are not alone, you're just participating in the Way of Things.You'll soon push through the soil and feel the sun.
Love, Glennon
Those words were a sure sign that Jess' immense transformation, from the visible hair loss to the very marrow of her bones, was simply growth disguised as destruction. What a wonderful image to hold in my mind while watching her endure so much-- and with such grace.
While Jess was busy with all of that cloaked-as-destruction growth, Lucy's hair was doing its own work. And, last week, just as Jess' hair was finally starting to sprout on her head once again, Lucy's locks had reached the length acceptable for donation.
On the day of the haircut, Lucy asked if she could first take a picture with the person who inspired her-- Jess. Look at these two beaming, beautiful girls. A heart could burst from all of the goodness in one lens.
Even though our Lucy's trademark curls are gone, it's evident how much growth has occurred over the past eight months-- for Lucy and Jess alike.